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The stranger in my life pdf The stranger in my life , ebook The stranger in my life , epub The stranger in my life , doc The stranger in my life , e-pub The stranger in my life , The stranger in my life da014e2b980 The True Story Of A Woman Who Loses Four Days Of Her Life In March And In , Following Years Of Terrifying Nightmares She Decides To Find Out Why With The Help Of An Experienced Psychologist She Relives The Events Of Years Ago And In Doing So Discovers What Happened To Her Business Partner, Fred Handford Following EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization And Reprocessing Treatment The Nightmares She Has Suffered Since The Day He Disappeared Th March Stop Competely And The Truth Is Finally Revealed


10 thoughts on “The stranger in my life

  1. says:

    The Stranger In My Life by Janet HoltI received my copy of this book on Saturday and set down to read it immediately If I could, I would have read it in a single sitting The writing is unpretentious and straightforward, just as I imagine Janet is I love her descriptions of farming life, her attitudes and her directness, though her naivete hints at troubles on the horizon She works hard and becomes very good at farming, having an empathy for animals that is obvious and rather moving The tale unfolds simply, which only makes it believable.Janet s story contains elements of almost Gothic horror I want to rush after her and say, No, don t go that way but there is nothing I can do but watch the narrative unfold, fascinated and sorrowful by turns Perhaps she and her family belong so firmly in the old fashioned, keep it buttoned down tight school of stoicism, that the tragedy feels almost inevitable But it is no less upsetting for that.How trauma affects its victims, how young people are abused within the criminal justice system, and how the mechanisms to protect them fail so spectacularly all make for compelling reading We can all learn from Janet s story Highly recommended.All the best with this I hope it goes on to sell millions of copies.Fran Macilvey, author, Trapped My Life With Cerebral Palsy


  2. says:

    A fabulously written memoir, which reads like a slick piece of fiction, made all the powerful that it is fact The Stranger in Me grabbed me by the throat from the first page and insisted that I continue reading it until the very last page A stunning first memoir from an amazing woman.


  3. says:

    This was a selection by one of my book club members so I had no expectations going in The book was an amazing memoir It is hard to believe this is a work of non fiction, it is such an incredible story I loved Janet s spirit throughout the book She took things at face value and this was both her charm and a blessing in life as well as her downfall The sheer joy she felt with nature and with animals resonated with me She was true to herself and honest to a fault The unraveling of her past and her mysterious missing 4 days of her life was heartbreaking yet her ultimate liberation Amazing read


  4. says:

    Utter fantasist Don t waste your time or money Utter drivel Badly written and fantastical It s not often I finish a book and feel that I ve wasted my time but this nonsense ticked the box.


  5. says:

    Sorry, please look after the animals was scribbled on a note that Fred pinned to a door It was intended for the eyes of Janet Holt, who had helped out on Fred s farm for years and had become his business partner Presumably, Janet heeded the message The word presumably may seem strange, but it is relevant because the note was read during a four day period in March 1976 that became elided from Janet s memory For thirty four years, she had no recollection whatsoever of what transpired in those days and it is the search for the story of that blanked out time that forms the centrepiece of Janet Holt s autobiography, The Stranger In My Life.At one point, late in the book, a misprint tells us that her dogs have tales wagging with excitement Janet had always been close to animals and loved to care for them And if the animals described in the book the dogs, horses, cattle and pigs in particular could in fact tell their tales, then we would know for sure that Janet did in fact heed the note and remember to look after them In the absence of their first hand witness, we must rely on Janet s perhaps incomplete account, reconstructed with therapist help than three decades after the event.The Stranger In My Life begins with a conventional, perhaps quiet childhood Janet Holt s interest in animals was manifest from an early age, and by ten she had Lucky, her own pony A rural setting in a village near New Mills in Derbyshire in the north of England offered her an excellent setting to pursue her interest And then Janet got to know Fred Handford, a farmer who in the nineteen sixties still ploughed with shire horses Janet helped on the farm and soon became skilled in animal husbandry, milking, pig feeding, mucking out and the like.Janet wanted to pursue this outdoor life, but her parents insisted she get a real job, so she eventually became a clerk in a New Mills legal firm Janet s dependability, interest and enthusiasm allowed her to combine a full time desk job and the farm work she loved Indeed, a financial arrangement with Fred saw her become a partner in the business.And then, in 1976, in her mid twenties, Janet suffered a kind of mental and physical collapse Four days disappeared from her life and her business partner Fred disappeared from her and everyone else s life, having left what was interpreted as a suicide note But then, there never was a body Janet took over the farm, but needed to continue with the paid work In many ways she became a stranger to herself, since she left herself no time to reflect, relive events A career and a farm, plus sleepless nights and recurring nightmares seemed to leave little time for anything apart from the here and now And by then that included an affair with her boss from the legal firm, an arrangement that was to last twenty years The four days around Fred s disappearance remained stubbornly blank, but ever dominant In any case, just how much do we know of ourselves Given the task, could any of us recall the events of a particular week in our lives well enough to relive them But in Janet s case, the emptiness of the missing time continually returned to dominate the present.Years later, after serving a prison sentence and with the help of a loyal friend and a therapist, Janet Holt attempted to relive those days with drastic results But even then the story remained incomplete The affair with the boss had lasted all those years and had ended in acrimony Janet had never been afforded status above the mistress used for sex, and she had shared that status with others in her boss s life Scorned, she exacted revenge where it hurt the man the most, in his wallet, but she paid the price for the fraud Her time inside did nothing to alleviate the pressure still exerted by those missing four days from two decades before, but it did help to identify new priorities for her life, and eventually an attempt to relive the trauma materialised Once through proved to be less than adequate as complication compounded complication and in the process Janet, the storyteller of her own life, seems to meet a stranger she knew only in nightmares, a person who lived those four missing days.The Stranger In My Life is an autobiography Its style is matter of fact, its language transparent and often deceptively simple But the content is stranger than fiction, revealing a person who became a stranger to herself, her very existence denied There is an immediacy that brings the past to life, though never literally, and it is a past that still might not have fully revealed itself We have to believe what Janet tells us, but still we are never sure of events Sorry, please look after the animals is what Fred s note said, but it is only the animals themselves who could tell us the detached detail of whether Janet did as she was asked.


  6. says:

    A fascinating and well written story, although quite distressing at times I found I couldn t put it down.


  7. says:

    This isn t just an autobiography It is a cleansing of the soul A baring of hidden memories Holt is in her own way showing both guilt and redemption Guilt by admitting that, which has been locked away in her vault of memories for many years Redemption, by hoping to atone by telling all.It is well written and even paced It also manages to create a build up of tension leading up to the grand plot finale, similar to a fictitious novel.I thought that was exceedingly well done, despite knowing from the get go where the story was going to end up.Trauma can cause the human mind to block out whole events, days and even years I believe the subconscious fear of knowing what lay behind that door of nightmares, must have driven Holt to make some odd choices in life.What remained unanswered for me was the aspect of why no evidence of any crime was found Does the fact there wasn t suggest an awareness of wrong doing and fear of being punished Does that gel with the trauma induced amnesia Of course these are exactly the type of questions that Holt has been and will be subjected to.At the moment the situation is in a no man s land, due to the lack of physical evidence or a body Without that the story, as it stands could just be the false memories of a distraught individual.I wonder what is worse, discovering the horrors behind the door or realising that perhaps nobody will believe you when you do tell them That conundrum is exactly why the brain creates the vaults to begin with.It must take a lot of guts to expose yourself and your secrets in this manner, especially when people doubt your intentions.I received a free copy of this book for my review.


  8. says:

    The Stranger In My Life by Janet HoltI received my copy of this book on Saturday and set down to read it immediately If I could, I would have read it in a single sitting The writing is unpretentious and straightforward, just as I imagine Janet is I love her descriptions of farming life, her attitudes and her directness, though her naivete hints at troubles on the horizon She works hard and becomes very good at farming, having an empathy for animals that is obvious and rather moving The tale unfolds simply, which only makes it believable Janet s story contains elements of almost Gothic horror I want to rush after her and say, No, don t go that way but there is nothing I can do but watch the narrative unfold, fascinated and sorrowful by turns Perhaps she and her family belong so firmly in the old fashioned, keep it buttoned down tight school of stoicism, that the tragedy feels almost inevitable But it is no less upsetting for that How trauma affects its victims, how young people are abused within the criminal justice system, and how the mechanisms to protect them fail so spectacularly all make for compelling reading We can all learn from Janet s story Highly recommended All the best with this I hope it goes on to sell millions of copies Fran Macilvey, author, Trapped My Life With Cerebral Palsy


  9. says:

    The background story and title intrigued me enough to want to read this I read the book in about three sittings and found it so absorbing and well written that I had to read to the end to discover the outcome What is clear is that Janet Holt had a real love for the animals she cared for and the farm she worked on for a large part of her life During this time Fred her business partner went missing What is unclear at first is why Janet could not remember four days of her life The mystery of those days slowly unravels with the narrative going back and forth between the decades, revealing just enough each time and so we the readers are drawn in.I m sure that this book will stay with me and it would be good if there is a follow up to find out what happened to Janet afterwards Brave lady and I really hope that she found some peace and happiness I hope too that the book of funny stories and about her life on the farm will eventually be written.


  10. says:

    I was first made aware of Janet Holt s book, The Stranger in my Life when I read Take Three Birds , a sort of autobiographical travelogue co written by Jill Pennington, Tottie Limejuice and Janet Holt Both Jill and Tottie made various mentions of the difficult times Janet had been through in her past, and also that she had written a book to tell her personal story.My curiosity was piqued, and as soon as I completed Take Three Birds I delved straight into Janet s story.Read


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